đź Craigâs Great Adventure
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đ What would you do if you saw a baby crawling down the sidewalk with no one around?
Back in 1983, I was a stay-at-home mom with three boys under the age of six. Yepâthree of âem. We lived in a cute little stucco house right across from the high school in Fernie, and just down the road was a tiny store that might as well have been Disneyland for my kids. Every time they got their hands on a penny, they were off to buy candy. đ One of my bigger parenting regrets? Teaching them to spend the second they had anything to spend. But heyâyou live and learn, right?
đ That day was sunny and peaceful. I opened the door and sent the boys outside to play in the fenced yard. Swingset, sandboxâthe whole setup. I checked the gate like I always did. From the kitchen, Iâd keep an ear out, and if I heard someone scream, it usually meant everything was fine. Thatâs just how it went in our house. Cory probably took something from Cam or Craig, and somebody was letting him know about itâloudly.
â My friend Dorothy Butterfield showed up, just like she always did. No knocking, no warningâjust a trail of laughter and the scent of coffee drifting in behind her. We settled in at the kitchen table, chatting and cackling like we always did.
Now, Iâve got a library full of Dorothy storiesâshe was one of a kindâbut this is the day she saved me from a visit from Child Protective Services.
đ Somewhere between the gossip and the coffee refills, things got a little too quiet. The yard was silent, but we didnât notice. Dorothy had one of those laughsâloud, snorty, and impossible to ignore. It couldâve drowned out a marching band, let alone the sound of a gate creaking open.
đ¨ Then it happened.
A woman showed up at my sliding glass door.
She wasnât smiling.
And she was holding my baby.
đł My heart just about stopped. Dorothyâs face dropped. I had no idea who this woman was, but Dorothy didâher name was Kate.
Without missing a beat, Dorothy walked over, gently took Craig from her arms, gave Kate a quick hug, and said, âHey hon, you want some coffee?â
Spoiler: Kate did not want coffee. She was furious.
âI found him crawling along the sidewalk! Alone! Do you have any idea what couldâve happened to him?â
I was frozen. Couldnât even speak. Dorothy stayed calm, kept her arm around Kateâs shoulders, and said gently, âItâs awful, I know. The older boys mustâve run off to the store and left the gate open. Wanda didnât know. This was just an accident.â
Kate wasnât convinced. She let loose on how I shouldnât have kids if I couldnât keep track of them, and that maybe someone should call the authorities. I was shaking.
đ But hereâs the thing about Dorothyâlaughter was her shield. She used it like armor, and she used it well. She didnât argue or scold. She just leaned in and started telling a funny story, the kind that makes people forget what they were mad about in the first place.
Kate blinked. Then cracked a smile. Just a small oneâbut it was enough.
Dorothy kept going, tossing in another joke or two, and before long, Kateâs anger softened. That was Dorothyâs magicâshe turned tension into laughter, even if it meant making herself the punchline.
đĽ Eventually, Kate sat down. Dorothy poured her a cup of coffee, handed Craig back to me, and with a side-eye and a smirk said, âYou owe me, lady.â
đŹ Later that day, Cory and Cam came bouncing back into the yard like nothing had happenedâcandy wrappers in hand and sticky smiles on their faces. When I asked if theyâd shut the gate, they looked at each other and shrugged. Just two little boys with candy on the brain. They werenât trying to be careless. But that day taught me how fast things can slip through the cracksâeven when you think youâre on top of it.
đ I got to know Kate better after that. Turns out, she was a good eggâjust caught us on a bad day. We ended up laughing about it later. But Iâll never forget how Dorothy stepped in, not just to help, but to protect me when I couldnât even find the words.
That was Dorothy. Loud, loyal, always armed with a cup of coffee, a good joke, and a heart big enough to carry the rest of us. â¤ď¸
â Wanda-ism:
When life goes sideways, get yourself a Dorothyâbut until then, keep the gate locked.
Pull up a chair. Iâve got a story.